I realized that there are still way too many things for us, the youngsters, to learn about the world, the society..
I went out to the HK restaurant in White Sands with my parents to have a drink this morning. Almost every Sunday, my mother would call me out, so that we can have our private time for our own family. In case you don't know, there's about 14 people in my house. Can you imagine? 14 people! There's always advantages, and disadvantages in everything. Having so many people in the house, the communication between me and my parents would also decrease, which leads to the relationship become further.. So you can see the reason why my mother always want to call me out every Sunday, to spend time with her own children, to ask about what's going on in school, ask me about my thoughts, and everything. She also shared her troubles and worries with me, and I felt that I have learn a lot of things today, after she chatted with me.
There are still about 5 or 6 years before we go into the society. We may think that its still a long way to go, but compared to the amount of things that we still have to learn, about the society, about the world, everything, there are way too many things to learn in this 5 or 6 years. For example, you're working in a company, there are your superior and colleagues. When your superior, treats you better than your other colleagues, your colleagues will be jealous of you, and they will go around talking about you behind your back, you may never know. That's how realistic the society is.. That's what my parents told me.
Things will not always go like what we want them to be. The society is a complicated thing.. Some knowledge can never be learn in books. We have to experience it ourselves, try it out ourselves to understand how it feels like.
Parents, in front of their children, often seem to be happy. But deep inside their heart, they have much more troubles and worries than we thought and expected. They wouldn't let us know, because they wouldn't want to affect our childhood and our studies. Sometimes, when we ask our parents to do something for us, they may have some jet lag or may forget about it. As their children, we should understand them, and be patient with them, and not getting pissed off about it. Learn to understand and communicate more with your parents, you never know what's truly bothering them.
Today, I have truely heard about the troubles that are bothering my mum. While my mum share her problems with me, I have many thoughts running through my mind, too many for me to elaborate now. As you know, there are many kids in my house. Some are around 16,17 while some are around 11,12. She works as a guardian, taking care of the kids. They are all from the same part of China, and we all speak Cantonese. Taking care of her own children is already not an easy task, moreover, she still have to take care of children of others.
On the outside, it may look to be simple. However, on the inside, you don't know how it can be like, taking care of so many children. Just like an apple, on the outside, it may look to be delicious and appealing. But when you eat it, it may not be up to what you think it is. To tell you the truth, its very pressurizing and stressful. My mum, have to worry about their studies, their health, their safety, and their thoughts. My mum, is more than a teacher, more than a principal or anybody in the world, although she is paid. When you're paid, you have the responsibility to teach them.
The parents of the children, never seem to understand my mother. They have never stood on my mum's perspective of viewing things. Instead, they only stood on their own perspective and their child's perspective. I want to say something to the parents.
After many years....standing under the rain or shine, it finally becomes a beautiful tree.
What we are looking at is the "before" and "after".. But have we ever seen the process? The process of the growth? Just like maths, what we are interested in is only the answer. We have to learn the process of getting the answer.
你们送他们来新加坡，给我妈看，都是希望他们学好英文，学得怎样独立，照顾自己，怎样去做人。但是，对我妈来说，他们平安无事已经是算好了，能够过得这一关，可以确保他们的安全，已经算是这样的啦。你们也该明白我妈妈的负担，他的责任，是那么的重大。你们却只想看到好的“结果”，从没有看过你们孩子的成长过程。就像一颗种子，经过长年累月的成长过程，经过那么多的风风雨雨，才变成一颗坚固的大树。当你在街上看到一颗好漂亮的一颗大树时，你有想过它是怎样培养的吗？当你们的孩子变好的时候，你们就当我妈像神仙那样崇拜。但是当你们的孩子变得没有像其他的孩子那么好的时候，你们却怀疑我妈，怪责我妈为什么没有教好他们的孩子。就像父母送孩子到学校，都是希望学校的老师和校长能够教好自己的孩子们。当孩子们学坏时，父母却怪学校的老师和校长，为什么没有教好他们的孩子。你们都站在自己的立场去看待这件事，但是你们有没有试过站在老师们和校长们，看待这件事情呢？父母们，你们有站在我妈妈的立场来看待这件事情吗？她不只要照顾你的孩子，还要照顾别人的孩子，你有没有想过这样是多么的困难，多么的大压力吗？你有体验过我妈吗？因为我妈照顾的不是自己的孩子，所以不能打他们，又不能骂得太凶狠，这又不可以，那又不可以。。我妈常说，教别人的孩子是最难教的。你们有试过照顾十几个吗？没有吧？你们试过说: “照顾那么多孩子真是不容易。。” 吗？请你们大开眼界，检讨一下你们自己，不要什么都怪在我妈身上。
I have something to say to the students too.
你们知道自己的父母送你们过来的原因吗？他们的原因都是一致的。希望自己的孩子成材，出人头地。有时候，我妈妈可能会因为一些少少的事而骂你们。 你们不要以为她恨你们，其实她是真心想要教好你们，然后你们的父母看到自己的孩子那么乖，也会觉得用那么多钱来培养你们在新加坡读书也是值得的。如果你们出什么事，我妈妈也要向你们父母交代。所以，我希望你们可以尝试一下站在我妈的立场。她那么辛苦，每天都要督促你们读书，也要关心你们的学业，每天煮那么多菜，买菜，买米。。你们知道如果你们变坏，对她来说是很大的影响吗？
说了那么多，父母和孩子们，不管你们看不看到，希望你们能够明白。